How is Japanese parenting style is different from others?
Parenting is a tough task. There are a lot of ups and downs, some rewarding moments and of course, every parent has a story about “how they goofed up”. It’s also a time when you learn and observe from the ones around you, including your parents because all anyone wants is to raise a happy, healthy and intelligent child.
However, if there is one particular community everyone around the world looks at for inspiration, it is Japan.
Japanese children, no matter what age have a certain mannerism to themselves which sets them apart. In fact, it is almost rare to see a Japanese kid cry in the public! There is also a huge difference in the way Japanese parent their little ones versus how people do it anywhere else.
Here are five things Japanese do differently when it comes to raising their offspring:
Japanese children are brought up equally
A while back, a video of school kids cleaning their classroom went viral, which amazed netizens. It’s not just a video, but a Japanese culture. Children, from the very, start are taught about equality and it’s not uncommon to see even the royal, princely children attend the same school or activities as other children.
In Japanese philosophy, children are brought up with a value of servitude and taught to put off personal interests when they are in their prime years. This way, they learn essential values of living together in a society and equality in their budding years.
The mother-child relationship is quite strong and respected
Family is an important sect in Japanese culture and constitutes an important part while parenting a child as well. While the mother-child relationship is a protective one, in Japan, this plays out a little differently. A lot of focus is played on maternal upbringing when a child is young and studies have shown that children who grow up with a positive attitude show a reduced risk of problematic disorders once they grow up.
As a rule, Japanese parents, mothers especially are advised to spend a lot of time with their children and are also provided with government subsidies for the same. Kids aren’t sent to kindergarten before the age of 3.
Parents pay attention to their emotions
Paying attention to children’s mental and emotional state is just as important as their physical attributes. Japanese parents understand this well. While they are known to display a warm and encouraging attitude while caring for little ones, the idea of discipline or rebuking kids when they do something bad exists in a different parallel. Positivity is encouraged at all times and kids are taught to understand and process the emotions of both animate and inanimate objects as well so that they learn to co-exist in a society.
They do not believe in public praise or affection
While every parent likes to partake in little praise or talk about the good qualities of their children in the public, it would be uncommon to see a Japanese parent do the same. Kids are taught to be independent and practise discipline, without having to depend on any reward or words of encouragement.
They make eating an enjoyable process
A Japanese parenting secret even grown adults want to adopt? Bento boxes for kids! Japanese school lunches are famous all around the world and rightfully so. It is one of the ways to make kids eat healthier without making food boring. In a survey, it was also revealed that Japanese kids were amongst the healthiest in the world. From having the kids help in the kitchen, moderating food portions or packing them in a fun way, Japanese parents focus on making eating an enjoyable process for the kids, instead of treating it as a chore.